I have some super exciting news to share!!!
I am a Doula!
What is a Doula you ask? This is a question that I have been asked a lot recently. A doula means ’to serve’. A doula is a person that offers families unconditional, non-judgmental support to a family during labor, delivery and postpartum.
How did I come to this place? How did wanting to be a part of something so life changing, sometimes scary and exciting become a subject of interest to me?
I’m a Nutritionist, and I love food. Everything about it, eating, prepping, cooking it. It’s a huge part of who I am. So one day at the beginning of my nutrition course someone slightly educated me on what Doula’s were, and how it could compliment my evident ‘passion for child nutrition’ attitude (that could be a blog on its own). There it was, fertility, postnatal, infant and toddler nutrition. Labor, delivery and postpartum support … yes! YES!!! this is what I need to do. I can do this. People need this, they need me. I am enough.
So where do I begin? Why does this mean so much to ME?
It started with the loss of my ever so special mom. I was 21 years old, I was tough, but heart broken, the result of having such a strong amazing women to look up to. I went into that maternal role of wanting to take care of my sisters and my dad. There are many things I feared when my mom died, most of all missing her. All the little-big things that every child takes for granted; like Sunday dinners, holding her hand on our drives, making her a coffee, the smell of her hands (so yes my eyes light up when I smell bleach being used in the other room), most of all the sound of her infectious laugh and the comfort of her arms wrapped around me. OK, OK… now the tears are flowing on my end. The last 11 years has been an incredible journey, a long one of growth and acknowledgement and respecting the path I am set out to do.
The thing is I always feared not being able to fill or replace the empty space where my mom stood. What I have realized is that nothing, not no one can ever fill her shoes, not even me. And thats ok because I’m pretty darn sure my way wouldn’t have been hers. There will be some empty spaces in my future, the image of my mom standing next to me in the delivery room, my mom at my house washing my dishes and making some food postpartum, giving me her opinion on being a new mom whether I wanted (or liked it) or not. Feeling alone is one of my biggest fears and maybe because I saw my mom miss her mom throughout my childhood. (my grandmother tragically passed away months before I was born). Nobody wants to to be or feel lonely. I most definitely don’t want that, especially when I worked so hard being ok, with being alone. I know that I am not the only person out there that fears this.
All of the above really made me dive deeply into what helped shape the person that I have become. I respect and cherish the childhood that I had. I truly believe that a strong foundation of love and nutrition is essential for every living person. I am grateful everyday that my parents provided just that for me. This is what drove my passion about educating families on nutrition and being able to provide a certain kind of service during labor/delivery/postpartum that we all didn’t know that we needed.
I can offer a service that will provide a unique kind of support. Not the support of your parents or best friend, but an unbiased support that is essential, and custom to each person or couple as they bring a beautiful new life into the world.
Going into this I know that I can’t replace anyone. I won’t be filling anyone else’s shoes, even those of close family members and friends. The only thing that I will offer, is the service of being a doula. A doula is to serve parents, giving them hands on and emotional support. Essential support through the toughest, but most rewarding moments of their lives. I can’t express to you enough how rewarding the first few, lets say seconds, of becoming a Doula has been. I’m proud to be able to offer this wonderful service and look forward to serving you.